43 weeks pregnant: EFT to release the pain of waiting
One month ago I went on maternity leave.
I’m now officially 2+ weeks late.
When I went on maternity leave, I swore off my inbox and most work.
My only productivity vice has been recording EFT meditations to keep me sane amidst constant texts of, “Is baby here yet!?”
No she is not.
I’ve been tapping up a storm.
Why does this relate to you?
Think of something you’re waiting for… something you’ve been waiting for a long time.
A goal you thought you would have reached by now.
An outcome other people keep checking in about.
A finish line that distracts you from enjoying your day-to-day steps.
Your aunt asks, “So how’s dating life?” Meanwhile, you’ve been in the throws of frustrating dating apps.
Grandma asks, “Are you ever having kids?” Meanwhile, you’ve been seeing specialists and going mildly insane trying to get pregnant.
Mom asks, “How’s work?” Meanwhile, you’ve been spending money you don’t have on therapists trying to work on your life purpose.
You get the idea. You’re still waiting
You’re starting to doubt your goals will ever happen.
You’re starting to resent the people who keep asking.
You’re starting to wonder if you’re doing something wrong,
or not doing enough,
or already too late...
We’ve all been in a waiting game.
As I write this I can hear a neighbor asking my husband (again): “Is the baby here yet?”
No, she is not.
Last week I was still triggered by the conversation, but now I hear his question as curious, not callous.
What changed? I’ve been recording and using daily tapping meditations.
Tapping exercise 1: Tapping away the pain of waiting.
In this EFT audio exercise, I train my brain to hold space for the tension of waiting.
The fear that it will never happen.
The angst of waiting without certainty.
As I hold space for discomfort, the tapping audio reminds me, “You don’t need to fix this feeling. Just feel it. Observe it. Allow it.”
The audio is a soothing reminder that discomfort is just that, discomfort: It’s not a forecast of the future.
Tapping exercise 2: Tap away the fear of getting your hopes up.
I have an inherited pattern of not getting my hopes up.
I was taught that the more you hope, the more disappointed you will be.
The pattern sounds like, “If I hope the baby will come tonight, I’ll have to be more disappointed in the morning.”
This pattern has sabotaged my hope from my first job interview to my first date.
I used my maternity leave to FINALLY let this fear go. I want to be able to hope without the fear of jinxing what I want.
After tapping on this daily (yes I weirdly listen to my tapping audios as a way to ground) I now see hope as a strategy, not a superstition.
If you’re already a member of my Ideal Future Portal, you can find this audio under Month 6: Miracle Mindset.
Tapping exercise 3+: Tapping into ideal outcomes.
After I hold space for the angst, I connect to my end goal: Baby’s peaceful arrival.
There are three main EFT meditations in my Idea Future Portal that I’ve been religiously using. Since they are all less than 10 min, I have been using them every day.
My favorite is a 7-minute audio that helps me connect to the energy of my intention.
How will I feel when I’m holding baby in my arms?
How will I feel when I can finally message the daily texters with pictures of baby?
How will I feel when I can dump all the herbs and castor oil in the garbage that were supposedly going to help me go into labor half a month ago?
Relief
Elation
Joy
Ecstasy
In these HIGH VIBE tapping meditations I let my body soak in these ideal energies.
Even though the baby hasn’t chosen to come earthside yet, she and I benefit from the flood of endorphins that this tapping meditation brings.
Ask yourself:
What finish line are you waiting to reach?
What makes waiting harder (triggering texts, comparison, putting pressure on yourself)?
What beliefs or fears make it more torturous than it needs to be?
I used to have a track coach who would send us on a run and not tell us how far we had to go. It made the run torturous.
Waiting for birth feels oddly similar.
If you’re sweating towards a finish line (relationship, career, health) and have no idea how much longer you’ll be waiting, you’re not alone.
If you are waiting for a finish line, losing patience, afraid to get your hopes up, and equally afraid you’re blocking yourself from getting there, there are tools made by a woman in your shoes.
Thanks for letting me break my own rule and write during my maternity leave.
I’ve been recording a daily meditation and uploading it to my Ideal Future Portal.
It’s saving my sanity.
If you want to tap along with me, check out the year’s worth of EFT meditations inside the Ideal Future Portal: Many new additions were recorded during my waiting period.
If you want an EFT practitioner in your pocket who is sharing exercises that have personally helped her stay hopeful despite tests, check out the Ideal Future portal here.
The finish line is coming.
It’s not what you expect.
It might be better than you think.
Jackie Viramontez
Master EFT Trainer