Healing 6 Sneaky Success Blocks (Part 1)
Have you eve dated someone for too long?
You knew you should break up but you stuck around because part of you feared …
This is as good as it gets, or
What I have is better than nothing, or
If I leave, I might end up regretting it?
Business is a lot like love.
Like an unsatisfying relationship, you might not be satisfied with your success, but you stay stuck because part of you fears…
I won’t be able to find something better,
Something better won’t happen for someone like me,
If I take the risk and make a change, it might not work out.
After almost a decade of teaching EFT tapping, I’ve seen 7 main blocks that secretly sabotage our success (and relationships). In a recent Instagram poll, people said they mostly struggle with success so I’ll be focusing on that BUT you can apply these same concepts to your love life.
EFT tapping is an evidence based pressure point modality that lowers stress hormones so you can approach success blocks and setbacks from an empowered perspective.
Block # 1: Triggers
Triggers are the situations that make you anxious, insecure or overwhelmed.
You see an Instagram ad that says, “Make 6 figures as a health coach.” You feel anxiety; You’re barely making 5 figures. Social media posts = Success Trigger.
Your mom’s friend asks “How’s your little healing business going?” You feel a sinking pit of dread mixed with annoyance. People asking about work = Success Trigger
Imagine a world where you felt calm and confident during these situations.
Do your future success a favor and make a list of these daily situational triggers.
Learn to tap on each trigger until these common occurrences don’t phase you.
Tapping implies sitting down and tapping each EFT point as you focus on a recent trigger. While your emotions might start at a 7 (on a 0-10 scale) you might find them dissolving to a 3.. 2… 1… with each soothing tap and breathe.
Tapping on triggers is the first technique I teach in my EFT level 1&2 workshop because daily triggers become lifelong patterns that steal confidence and joy.
Some triggers will take 5 minutes to tap away. Others may take 6 sessions.
I’ve found that the stickiest triggers are rooted in core limiting beliefs.
Block # 2: Limiting beliefs
Limiting beliefs are the inner voices that make you procrastinate. Instead of taking the brave action step (to launch the new project, or call that new lead), you stay in your comfort zone.
They sound like: I can’t. I couldn’t. I shouldn’t. I don’t have what it takes. I’m not enough. People will judge me. People will think xyz.
Most triggers feel anxiety-inducing because they trigger these nasty inner voices.
Ready for a personal story? The year before my son was born I knew I needed a change. A few months before my due date, my boss called to ask if I could lead a huge enrollment launch that kicked off 3 days before my expected due date.
I reminded him that I was taking a 3 month maternity leave.
He pushed back: What if we push it to a week after your due date?
“I could be in labor.”
What about two weeks after?
“The average first time mom has her baby 10 days late. I can’t.”
The conversation went on like this until the date was moved to 8 weeks after my due date.
I felt equal parts angry that my request for (unpaid) maternity wasn’t respected and equal parts guilty that I couldn’t be my high-achiever-self for this psuedo EFT celebrity who had relied on my to be his “yes-girl” for the pat 5 years.
On top of that, he announced to all the trainers that compensation was being cut but that responsibility was going up.
I knew that it was time for me to leave, but I couldn’t.
My limiting belief: “I can’t leave. It will take me years to build up my own EFT business.”
Under that was, “I’m not good enough to make this happen on my own.”
The boss actually said those exact words to me: “It will take you decades to build what I have built for you.”
If I had internalized his words as a limiting belief, I’d still be at that organization, sleep-deprived, and working 7 roles while only getting paid for 1/2 of one.
The reason I was able to launch my EFT Masterclass a year later (not decades thank you very much ;) was because I finally got motivated to work through my limiting beliefs.
I tapped on the belief that I needed this organization’s celebrity figure in order to have a thriving EFT career (Limiting Belief: I can’t succeed on my own).
I tapped on my fear of starting over. (LB: Starting over will take decades)
I tapped on the despair I felt pouring 5 years of my life into a company that was now hanging me out to dry (LB: It was a waste of time).
I tapped on the anger that I was being put in the postiion to choose my family or my career. (LB: I don’t deserve both)
EFT’s magic is that when fear dissolves, clarity (and truth) appears.
I tapped on each and every one of these beliefs until the inner voices became more hopeful:
I could do this on my own. And even if I wasn’t that successful, it was worth it (Truth: I’d have more time and spaciousness with my son.)
It wouldn’t take decades. And if it did, helping others heal is worth a lifetime of investment. (Truth: I am willing to invest whatever time it takes.)
The last 5 years was not a waste of time. (Truth: I had met so many amzing students and colleagues who made me the practitioner I am today.)
I didn’t have to choose betnween work and family. If I paved my own way and taught under an organization that repsected mothers and trainers, I could build a business that let me be present with my son. (Truth: I can have BOTH: A fulfilling career and a present and spacious mothering joruney).
I resigned.
I love watching students tap on their own limiting beleifs. As they tap and try to convince me, “I’m not good enough” it only take a few rounds for them to look back and say: “That’s B.S!”
Some inner voices sound like B.S after a few rounds.
Others are more deeply rooted; They block us from taking the risks to propel our business (and happiness) to the next level.
Some beliefs are stickier because they are reinforced by decades of evidence (aka memories).
Block # 3: Past Emotional Trauma
Trauma doesn’t mean death, divorce or abuse.
Trauma = moments in your past (adulthood, adolescent, childhood) that taught you that life is not always safe, comfortable or reliable:
The moments when you were fired, rejected, or betrayed teach you to expect less from life. They lead to what Søren Kierkegaard says “People settle for a level of despair they can tolerate and call it happiness.”
Emotional traumas can be from adulthood: Like a boss threatening you.
They can be from adolescence, when a teacher didn’t believe in you.
They can be from early childhood when you saw your parent’s business fail.
You aren’t born with success blocks. You learn them.
You watch your parent’s struggle. You grow up in scarcity. You take risks and fail.
These moments accumulate into generalization about what is possible or impossible… for someone like you.
You can’t go back and change history, but you can change the way we feel about history.
In the famous words of Dr. Joe Dispenza, “a trauma without emotion is wisdom.”
My memory of my boss’s threat, after tapping on it, is now wisdom: “His words come from his scRcity, not my value. Work with people who are collaborative and respectful.”
My memories of betrayal are wisdom: “Their choices are not personal. Trust your gut. This is what intuition feels like.”
If you want to increase your sense of possibility in your career, make a list of memories that affect your sense of hope and confidence.
On that list, include the boss who ridiculed you, the job that fired you, the partner that belittled you, the client who made you question your confidence, and the risk you took that led to disappointment.
Rate the emotional intesnity you still carry about each memory.
Then tap on each memory, one at a time, until the fear, shame, and frustration dissolve.
Then, extract the wisdom.
Back to that personal story: When I tapped on my own belief of “not being successful on my own” I asked myself a question I ask all my students, “Does this feel familiar?”
The answers was YES.
When I left for college, it was the first time I EVER left my sister for more than 48 hours. We are identical twins.
When I stepped foot on my intimidating college campus, I wondered, “Will anyone like me? Or do people just like me because I am a twin?”
I know it sounds silly, but when your inner child carries fear, the most ludicrous thoughts feel true.
My entire life I was never Jackie. We were just “The Twins,” “JackieLauren” “JL” “The girls” or my least favorite “JLo.” I love my sister, but I hate that I grew up thinking I had no identify without her. Friends often said, I love being friends with you: I get 2 for 1.
Being a twin set me up to expect that my identity and value came from being a twin, not for being me, Jackie.
At my old business, my identity and value came from being a trainer for this EFT celebrity, not for being Jackie the Trainer.
I doubted myself: Would anyone like me if I wasn’t under his wing?
When I tapped on the memory of stepping onto that campus alone, the deep weight of loneliness dissiapted. Yes it took 45 minutes, but when the fog lifted I felt liberated. I suddenly rembered how liberating it was to introduce myself as just Jackie. For the first time I knew the chose me for me, not for who came with me.
My boss’ words about “You will be nothing without me” were simply a mirror to a voice I held within for decades.
Maybe leaving that company was the way for me to finally heal the voice that said: “You are no one without her.”
It’s safe to say that the past two years have been the MOST rewarding, lucrative and fulfilling of my entire career. I have lived them with the spacious balance I could only create as momma Jackie.
When you set out to release success blocks, you will release:
SO
MUCH
MORE.
Starting next weeked, I’m spending multiple sessions teaching students how to tap on the memories and mindsets that sabotage their success.
Whle some students enrolled for self-healing, most are coming to learn tools to pass on to others: Their kids, their clients, their classrooms.
If you want to learn to tap on the blocks and beliefs holding you back from true satisfaction and spaciousness, I am hosting one final Level 1/2 and Level 3 training that all kicks off October 8th.
The workshops are part live and part online self study. Both tracks (level 1/2 & level 3) kick off 12-2 pm PST this Tuesday and then continue to dive deeper over the next 6 months. We will culminate with a group practitioner graduation on April 8th, expanded and free from the beliefs and traumas that held us back.
Your accredited tapping mentor,
Jackie
P.S. All the classes will be recorded and uploaded to your private portal which you can revisit and expand on for years to come. This is the last time I will onboard new students who want to become practitioners for the foreseeable future. After this cohort, I will focus on training my graduates in business, passive income, and specialty EFT topics. If you want to join us, click Add to Cart and confirm your 12 month payment plan ($299) or discounted full pay.
P.P.S If you’re interested in dual track (meaning not trauma informed EFT Level 1/2 + Master Level 3 Somatic Inner Child and Parts Work, scroll to bottom of the page here for a major discount.
