Anxiety for No Reason? The Hidden Link Between Womb Trauma & Healing
Dear Tapping Mentor,
“How do I tap on womb trauma? My mom went through one of the greatest losses of her life while pregnant with me. I know it connects to my anxiety and depression, which doctors have told me is “unexplained.” Please help.”
Dear Anxious for No Reason,
Just knowing that there’s a reason for your anxiety and depression (womb trauma!) puts you light years ahead.
Here’s the truth: womb trauma is all too common.
THere is a reason that my intake form asks: What do you know about your birth? Were you separated from your mom? Was it a C-section? Were you seperated from mom, even for an hour?”
If someone tells me they have “unexplained” anxiety or depression, I go straight to their birth story.
I get excited to tap, because tapping rewrites the data locked in your DNA..
The data shows that being separated from your mother after birth - very common in Western hospitals - increases anxiety for the rest of your life.
A mother’s emotional state directly affects her baby’s physical and emotional development. Through the umbilical cord, nutrients and stress signals pass from mom to baby. Each spike of cortisol creates a corresponding spike in the baby. (And yes, I know this can sound stressful, but stay with me - there’s a reason I love tapping on womb and birth 😉).
When I first read these studies, I felt stressed: If we are adopted, separated in the NICU, or if our birth mother immigrated, was cheated on, lost a job, or lost a loved one while pregnant, are we screwed?
I’m an identical twin: I was a high-risk birth. My mom still grieves that she was separated from us when we were first born.
My grandmother was put under anesthesia to deliver my dad (standard practice in 50s) - Hours later, she “came to” and got to see her baby already washed and clothed without her.
My great-grandmother was adopted. She was separated from her parents for a lifetime.
My great-great-grandmother immigrated, and was in such poverty that she had to give her kids to other families to raise.
We lived in the ovaries of these women.
When you feel overwhelmed, depressed, or anxious for ‘no reason’, remember there is a reason:
You carry the emotional weight of four generations.
These studies researched the root cause of unexplained anxiety and depression, not the root of healing.
We have tools like EFT Tapping and re-parenting to rewrite our birth story on a physiological level,
ona. lineage level.
This is why I call EFT a teleportation device: We travel backward to release what happened to us, our mother, and grandmother.
Then we travel forward to release what we fear will happen to our kids.
The tapping points connect to meridian points, meaning:
When you tap your chest, you emotionally detox trapped grief from your lungs (and the grief you absorbed into your lungs from mom).
When you tap your inner eye, you emotionally detox suppressed shock from your bladder.
When you tap your collarbone, you emotionally detox suppressed fear & anxiety from your kidneys.
The tapping points connect to your amygdala, the part of your brain that triggers stress when it feels mom’s stress. Tapping reteaches your brain that - despite the perceived threat - right here and now, in your lifetime, you are safe.
I could, and have, taught entire weekends on inner child and womb work, but for immediate relief,
Here’s what I’d personally practice first:
I’d put my hand on my heart, the same heart that beat in my mother’s womb.
I’d use tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) to emotionally detox the grief and anxiety.
Then I’d use tapping phrases that remind the inner child living in me, “Mom’s story is not my story. My story is different.”
Tap & Remember:
This might be her emotional weight, not mine.
This might be her story, not mine.
Her anxiety, not mine.
Her grief, not mine.
Her depression, not mine.
Her birth story, not my future story.
If these empath-friendly affirmations bring some healthy peace, make a date to revisit them the next time you feel weighed down by emotion (that might not be yours).
Start asking yourself: Is this my feeling or someone else’s?
If you find yourself having what I call an inherited feeling - if you feel anxious, angry, or hopeless for no reason - pause and ask: Is this mine, or someone else’s?
It might be a younger version of you, a client whose emotions spilled over to you, or maybe… your mother from long ago.
Here’s a mantra for you: The most caring thing I can do (for me and my lineage) is to finally break free from this story.
Thank you for asking this question.
Thank you for being brave enough to receive an answer.
Thank you for reaching out if you finally feel ready to rewrite this, and want to know where to start.
I don’t do private sessions, but I have self-studies, ebooks, and live workshops where you learn to be your own healer (aka author of your past and future).
Thank you for writing a new legacy with me,
Your tapping mentor & inner child copilot.
Jackie Viramontez
✨ P.S. If you feel called to rewrite your birth story - or moved to guide others through their own birth trauma - I teach healers and self-healers this sacred, often-forgotten modality inside EFT Taping Trainings (which begins with the Level 1 & 2 Somatic EFT Training this Fall.