#1 Key to Holding Your Dream = Nervous System Capacity 🦅🐟
I’m sitting on the beach giving myself carpal tunnel typing what I just saw. Nothing out of the ordinary, but I saw it metaphorically: An osprey, one of those sea hawks that troll the coast for fish, just dove into the ocean, emerging with a heavy sea bass in its claws.
What a score - until it isn’t.
My kids and I, who've been watching the hunt, screech with delight. But we quickly stop clapping. The bird is only 50 yards from shore, but as my four year old says, “It looks like he’s flying backwards."
The more the osprey beats his wings, the lower she dips, lopsided, toward the choppy water.
Do you ever feel this way? Like you work all morning, day, week or decade to catch a big break?
You get so close. Sometimes you hold it in your hands. Sometimes you gush your life-changing epiphany to your latest practitioner, "Oh my God,” you say, “this is the root! This is the big whammy! The hunt is finally over!”
Until it's not.
I empathize with that dang bird: Working so hard, getting so close, feeling the outcome in your hands, only to feel yourself lose your grip on what you've worked so hard for.
This bird and her fish are my new favorite metaphor for nervous system capacity:
The idea that we can finally catch what we want, only to not have the muscle to maintain it
Think about a professional athlete who makes it out of poverty and gets signed to a multi million dollar deal.
It sounds like such a win, until it isn’t.
If they don’t have the budgeting muscle…
If they choke under the pressure of so many eyes…
they will lose the dream as fast as the bird lost her slippery fish.
The athletes who hold their composure at any level, no matter whose eyes, or what contract bears down on them, are the ones who not only land the dream job, but who renew it year after year..
Think of a dream you are working toward in your life: Financial, professional, physical, or emotional.
Ask yourself, “Do I have the inner muscle, and outer rituals to maintain that dream if it becomes my reality?”
If you win the lottery tomorrow (who bought a ticket!?), do you have the budgeting muscle, the boundaries with family, and the self control to maintain that level of wealth?
If you lose thirty pounds, do you have the daily habits, the recipes, the workout buddy, and the snack cabinet of someone who can maintain that new baseline?
If you meet the love of your life tomorrow, are you brave enough to be vulnerable, trust again, and allow someone to see a piece of you you may have hidden for years?
There is no right or wrong answer; there is just a question:
Are you ready to catch your dream?
If yes, get ready. I’m sure it’s on its way.
If not, start building the muscle now.
How do you build nervous system muscle? How do you increase your capacity?
Over the past 20 years, I’ve studied dozens of healing modalities,
but the one I prioritize, the one I’ve devoted my life to teaching, is EFT tapping.
Unlike other tools (breathwork, meditation, mindfulness, etc) which lower stress and balance hormones, EFT tapping trains your body to maintain that lower stress and hormone balance… long after you stop tapping.
I tell every EFT Level 1/2 student: Tapping for 5 minutes lowers stress levels (and cultivates calm courage) for the next 90 minutes.
But, tapping on a specific block, belief, or trauma, permanently trains your body to stay calm & courageous whenever that block strikes next.
Tapping doesn’t just soothe your present, it rewrites your future.
To catch your fish and eat it too, we must teach our body to handle the lights.
We must scour our future for moments that will test our strength, try our patience, or poke at our imposter syndrome.
Then, and only then, will we get to catch our fish and eat it too.
Pick a goal.
Identify one block that might get between you and that goal:
Notice what feeling that block stirs in you.
Tapping has taught me: This feeling is not an obstacle but an opportunity to flex.
Flex your future.
Don’t fall back to your past.
That grip of fear, stress or annoyance is not a weakness, it’s a sign you're about to get stronger.
Flex.
When my kids are whining and I feel the boiling brewing of my own rubber band wanting to snap, I have two choices:
Whine right back at them, which is the equivalent of dropping the fish into the ocean. Dropping my patience,
OR Muster all my inner strength, breathe deep, and flex the patience & presence I want to pass down to them.
Some days I will snap. But never again will I think of these moments as triggers or tests.
They are workouts.
The heat.
The burn.
The grip.
The butterflies.
The pit in your stomach.
You’re holding a new weight.
Don’t drop it.
Do the rep.
The feeling in my belly twisting me to snap is not a problem, it’s a muscle being flexed. Flex patience. Flex peace. Flex presence.
Your peace and trust muscle is getting stronger.
Your capacity is expanding.
If you do drop it, don’t dwell.
Just pick it up again.
Every day is a new day to flex.
The pose that was your hardest, you can now do on autopilot. The 20-pound weight feels as easy as the 2-pound weight.
What once burns now feels fun.
The reason I can teach a classroom of EFT students in October is because I taught an audience of 1 back (shout out to my first EFT trainer Dale) back in 2012.
I used to think silent meditation every morning would manifest all our dreams, but at the end of the day, we have to flex the version of ourselves that we meditate on in the morning.
We’ve worked too hard, flown too far, and dreamed too big to let fear, overwhelm, or old patterns sabotage our success when it finally arrives.
Here’s a reminder: If you lose steam, think of the next generation on the beach cheering for you.
Think of the baby birds in the nest cheering you home.
If you lose the motivation to do it for yourself, do it for them.
If you want to equip yourself (and others), with a tool that builds the muscle to maintain a different future,
This October, I’m leading a 1x per year training in Accredited EFT Tapping.
We will learn, practice, and integrate how to :
Build the inner muscle to hold your outer success
Transform triggers into opportunities to raise your glass ceilings
Rewire your nervous system to stay calm and courageous under pressure
Turn moments of fear and trauma into fuel to create a new future
Whether you are brand new to EFT or already certified, this Accredited Level 1/2 EFT Tapping Training (prereq for Level 3) is my synthesis of 2 decades of work in the healing field.
Because the difference between catching your dream and keeping it is the strength you build today.
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xo,
Your Tapping Fairy Godmother & EFT Master Trainer
Jackie Viramontez
