Consent-Based Healing is the Future of Healing
I’ve attended at least a hundred workshops over the last 20 years: summits, trainings, certifications, classes, both live and online, and overseas. You name a modality - I’ve dabbled.
Most of these workshops promised a result, a breakthrough or cutting-edge technique that would be the missing link in my healing journey.
It gives me the ick.
Making a promise like a 90% reduction in symptoms or 99.9% effectiveness feels a lot like telling a person at a bar, “If you use this line, they WILL go home with you.”
It completely ignores the other person’s say in the matter.
Consent is obvious in sexual relationships, but ignored in the healing relationship between you & your body.
If you fall in love with someone, they have to say yes.
If you want to heal, your body ALSO has to say yes.
Consent is a very big deal to me,
not just because I’m a woman
or a mom to a girl,
but because I am a healer at heart.
When I was trying to get pregnant, I would have pleaded my body to say YES.
But if I asked my body for her consent,
if I held her hands and asked, “Are you ready for this?
Does all of you want to be a mother?
Does all of you feel safe having a son?”
She would’ve looked back at me and said, “I’m scared.”
I’m scared that having a child could mean losing that child.
I’ve shared before that my 1st core memory was watching my brother die. I grew up with a grieving mother.
“Hey, body, are you ready to have a son?”
For 5 years, my body said NO, despite every attempt.
My body said no (not because I’m flawed, or hormonally imbalanced, or doing something wrong) but because my body loves me.
My body loved me so much that she kept me from getting pregnant out of self protection.
Does this make sense?
If you’ve been striving for an outcome, whether a child, a new life, a new relationship, a new income bracket, and you’ve been waiting for five months, five years, five decades - you’re not broken:
There’s just some genius part of you that doesn’t feel safe going there.
They love you so much that they are protecting you from the risk and vulnerabilities waiting on the other side of relief.
I spent 5 years asking my body what she needed to feel safe… to finally get pregnant.
I spent 5 years surrendering to the idea that she might never say yes.
It is not through force, that we heal. It is through CONSENT.
The next time you pursue healing, ask yourself: Are you into this too? Does any part of me feel nervous about what it might entail? If so, learn to work with your body instead of against her.
Consent-based healing is the future of healing.
Which is why when I teach the next generation of healers in EFT foundations, the only prerequisite is a deep respect for the body and all the somatic (body) wisdom she carries.
If you resonate with pursuing trust, before results, I am gathering a sacred group of souls ready to learn the art and science of trauma-informed EFT Tapping this October & November. Now enrolling.
Your Tapping Mentor & EFT Master Trainer
She makes peace,
Jackie Viramontez
