👉 What I Wish 20-Something Me Had Read

✨ 9 healing truths that keep me young.

1. There’s no such thing as feeling bad or feeling good.
   There are just feelings. All of them come and go like waves—don’t expect any of them to hang on.

2. There’s no such thing as limiting beliefs.
   They’re just generalizations based on past events. If the generalization isn’t serving you, trace it back to the event that planted the seed. Learn to weed.

3. Rejection doesn’t hurt. Self-rejection does.
   If your last call got zero comments - or even led to someone unsubscribing - it’s not about them. It’s about you. What are you making their opinion mean about your truth? Trace that truth back to a past event.

4. Tapping isn’t about negativity or positivity—it’s about honesty.
   Don’t feel like you need to memorize some script or tap along to someone’s forced mantras that don’t feel true for you. Own the truth, and the truth will set you free.
   In the words of Brené Brown: “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
   Sometimes the truth is that you feel anxious for no reason. Sometimes the truth is you want to scream. Sometimes the truth is that you feel guilty celebrating because it might make someone else feel bad. Sometimes the truth is that part of you is afraid of getting everything you want—because what if it doesn’t give you what you wanted in the end? Own the truth so it doesn’t own you.

5. Never heal alone.
   Owning the truth is scary when you’re alone. Owning it with a friend, a trusted comrade, turns heavy things into laughable things.
   I’ll always remember when my kid shit all over his clothes, the couch, and the trail between the couch and changing table. If I was alone, I would’ve cried. But since four of my friends were there - two of them moms - we laughed and said, shit happens. Shit can turn into fertilizer when you know how to garden with people who have green thumbs.

6. There is no finish line to healing.
   No matter how much inner work you do, how many workshops you pay for, or what snake oil salesman promises you - there is no finish line. That’s like saying if you just find the perfect workout, you’ll never have to exercise again. Healing is a lifestyle, not an end goal.

7. The point of healing is to feel the way you want to feel.
   So stop waiting to heal. Stop waiting for some external circumstance to permission your internal landscape.
   If you think you’ll feel relief, joy, confidence, or pride when you reach the “finish line,” figure out how to feel that way now—so you’re not at the mercy of the outside world to dictate your inside world.
   Have a dance party before you hit the income tier. Toast yourself before you get the job. Get the Brazilian wax and the lingerie before you meet the guy. Throw your shoulders back, put on the lipstick, walk into the room as if you already have the credentials. Stop code-switching.
   That, girlfriend, is true power.

8. Take notes on your bad days.
   Whatever helps you get through a bad day is going to help someone else through theirs.

9. Never give your worst moments the credit.
   Never say that your trauma gave you perspective, or that your loss gave you empathy. You chose empathy despite the loss. You chose perspective despite a tragedy that might have made someone else bitter.
   Give yourself the credit.

Tap and Remember These Mantras (they’ll serve you straight into your 30s):

• I deserve a f***ing medal of honor for what I’ve been through.

• I have a PhD in getting through the bad days.

• I know how to turn shit into fertilizer for the future.

Believing lies can waste your youth, so tap into these truths.

Send to a 20-something who is wise beyond her years.

You’re tapping fairy godmother and inner child copilot.

Jackie Viramontez

For people who want to develop a green thumb in the healing department, come learn to tap with me - or more accurately, learn to tap on your inner child (even if she’s 20-something).