The side effects of having emotionally immature parents
Did you grow up with an emotionally immature parent?
Pretend you grew up with a parent who couldn’t control their anger. What are the side effects?
Emotionally: You may have never learned to soothe (or emotionally regulate) your own frustration. You might judge yourself when you feel frustrated or disappointed.
Mentally: You may have developed the belief that others emotions are your job to fix: A codependent belief I see in many healers who wind up feeling burnt out 👋🏾
Relationally: Maybe you’ve attracted partners who blame you for their emotions and lack the emotional responsibility to take ownership (just like your good old parents).
Physically: Maybe you developed ulcers or poor sleep or panic attacks from the stress of living with unpredictable caregivers.
As an adult you find it hard to feel at ease when you’re in an unpredictable environment because it triggers that inner child.
Personality: You are a self proclaimed high achiever, perfectionist and/or people pleaser who rarely lets themselves rest because they could always do more or be more for someone or something else.
This is not a personality by the way- it’s a survival skill from that emotionally unpredictable parent. The personality CHOICE of courage allowed you to develop these survival adaptations but they are maladaptive.
You’ll need to tap out of them (pun intended) if you want to build a business that feeds you vs. depletes you. I’ll save that for another blog.
An emotionally unpredictable parent creates dozens of physical, mental, emotional and behavioral side effects.If we want to break free, we can’t dilly dally on a dozen different modalities.
We need one efficient psychosomatic tool.
Psychosomatic Healing: Targets the physical, mental, emotional, relational, and/or spiritual blocks that form as a result of trauma.
I’m sending Part 2 next on How EFT Is the “It” tool for psychosomatic healing, but I’ll give your eyes a break from the screen.
For now, Tap and journal:
How do I change the way I act around other people? Over give? Overcomplicate? Martyr? Control? Protect?
Especially around people who don’t take responsibility for their own feelings?
Does that way of acting support me?
Does it support my goals?
My career?
My clients?
What would support me? Boundaries? Grace? Trust? Space?
Tap as you write.
Tap as you read your answers.
Then learn to work on root causes with EFT.
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